There is a lot of talk nowadays about the so-called “boyfriend loophole” as they relate to red flag orders. I was a victim of a woman who tried to hang me with a domestic violence accusation. This happened back in 2014. In her complaint, she alleged:
- that we lived together (we did not)
- that I was stalking her (I was not)
- I showed up at her workplace (I did, but not while she was there)
- which led to her getting fired (It did, but not because I had done anything wrong or illegal)
She got my first name and my address correct, but had used the wrong last name*. The court granted her a temporary Domestic Violence Restraining Order.
Her legal complaint never alleged any violent act or even threat on my part. I was going to ignore the whole thing, since it wasn’t my name on the order, but my lawyer advised that we fight it to avoid issues down the road. So it still wound up costing me over $2,000 in legal fees. You can read about the entire story here and the resolution here.
Even though we could prove in court that she lied (I never lived with her, even though she said I did) there were absolutely no ramifications to her lies. Had there been a law allowing her to get a DVRO from a person she was only dating, I am convinced that I would be a prohibited person to this day.
There is no limit to the lengths that a woman who feels slighted will go to in order to get revenge on her ex. If it means lawfare, so be it. They will do it without hesitation.
* The last name thing is pretty funny. When I was on Facebook, I used a false last name, because I didn’t want people from my work to be able to read the politically incorrect things I was saying. She filed for the DVTPO using my fake Facebook name. (Shows how well she really knew me.) Anyway, she got the address and my first name correct, so a Deputy pulls up to my house and says, “Are you Dive Medic?” I reply, “Yes.” He hands me the TRO and tells me that I am under a restraining order and drives away.