Keeping secrets from parents

I was informed by a female student that she is “nonbinary” and wants to be referred to by a male name – let’s call it “Steve.” I refused. The school is telling me that I MUST call a student by whatever name they choose for themselves. They also have told me that I cannot divulge the student’s sexual identity to anyone- including the child’s parents- without the student’s permission.

I am not going to use her made up name. In fact, I will only refer to students by the name that they are registered under. I am also refusing to keep such a secret from the child’s parents. They can fire me if they want, but I promise that should that happen, I will make sure that the school district becomes national news.