My own moral code is somewhat complicated. As all of you know, I am not a believer in any sort of deity. I guess that’s odd, being that I grew up in a Catholic household and was sent to a Christian private school for three years. My parents were hoping that the experience would help. It didn’t. All my experiences with organized religion did was make me believe that the people in the churches were mostly lying hypocrites. There is a joke I once heard that goes like this:

When I was a kid, I wanted to pray for a bike, but I know God doesn’t work like that. So I stole a bike and then prayed for forgiveness.

My experiences really turned me away from religion, but I also knew that I needed to develop my own moral and ethical code. That was when I discovered Robert A Heinlein. In more than a couple of his stories, his characters remarked on the importance of developing one for yourself, and that is exactly what I did.

I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.- RAH

In doing this, I looked at many different philosophies. For example, there are some cultures that don’t believe in owning property. To outsiders, they don’t believe that taking something that you want is stealing, since no one actually owns property. Still other cultures believe that objects belong to the maker. I discarded those and kept looking.

I think that it’s fair to say that most of my personal ethics and morals are a close parallel to Christian beliefs. So even though I don’t claim to believe in the spiritual and mythological parts of Christianity, I do align quite closely with its tenets on most things. I guess you can say that I am Christian adjacent. I guess, growing up on Heinlein novels, a lot of my outlook is close to his. Why did L. Ron Hubbard become the prophet for a religion, but RAH was not the founder of a political party? Puzzling.

Force and Violence

My first and most important one is that it is always morally wrong to initiate violence or force against another. That doesn’t mean that you have to wait for the other guy to throw the first punch- quite the contrary. Force to me doesn’t just mean that you are physically striking someone. I can use force against you in various ways- shouting in your ear with a megaphone, shining a laser in your eyes, or even sitting at the end of your driveway so that you cannot leave your house without running me over are all uses of force. Taking something of yours while daring you to do something about it is still force. I think this part of my philosophy came from that time when I was a child and my dad told me that I wasn’t allowed to start a fight. So I just forced the other kid to throw the first punch by being a royal asshole. Now that I am an adult, I know that there are more ways to start a fight than merely hitting someone, and I recognize it to be wrong.

Still, anyone who attempts to use force against me will have a fight on their hands. That fight might be a physical one, a legal one, or some other pushback.

Stealing and Fraud

We all trade our time in order to secure property. Whether we make the object, or trade our labor for money in order to buy the object, everything we own represents a slice of our limited lifetime. Stealing an object is no different than stealing time from another’s life or making them your slave. On the contrary, gift giving is indirectly giving someone some of your life, whether the gift is an object or your time, it still represents something.

It’s also wrong to use deception to take things from others. Lying to someone and telling them that this car has never had mechanical problems when you know damned well that it needs a new transmission is still stealing, it’s just stealing by fraud. It’s wrong.

I have no problem with charging all that the traffic will bear- an eager seller and a willing buyer is fine with me- as long as both are honest about what is being traded. I won’t sell you a broken car, you don’t pay me with a counterfeit bill.

Taxes and Charity

Taxes for the public good aren’t stealing as long as everyone gets the same benefit. So a tax that pays for police, courts, streets, or fire service can be a good thing, while a tax that takes money to hand out to people simply because they are poor is nothing more than theft.

“There is no worse tyranny than to force a man to pay for what he does not want merely because you think it would be good for him.”- RAH

Taxes are not levied for the benefit of the taxed.- Also RAH

Defending the Helpless

I also believe that we have a duty here in this life to defend those who are unable to defend themselves. I will always fight for what I think is right- even at great personal cost. In fact, the times in my life that got me in the most trouble were the times that I stood my ground and defended my principles.

There are plenty of things that I believe, and I suspect that many who claim to be Christians would find that our beliefs are actually quite closely aligned.

Limited Government:

I believe in a government that primarily focuses on internal police, courts, and external defense. Other matters should be handled by individuals and private organizations.

That we were slaves I had known all my life—and nothing could be done about it. True, we weren’t bought and sold—but as long as Authority held monopoly over what we had to have and what we could sell to buy it, we were slaves.- RAH

Individual Liberty:

I stand behind individual freedom, including freedom of speech, thought, and expression. Censorship and any attempt to control people’s knowledge or beliefs is wrong. That’s why I run this blog.

Distrust of Authority:

I have a great deal of skepticism towards authority, particularly government authority, but also authority of organized religion. How the pope can tell us we need to donate to the poor while he is taking a crap on a solid gold toilet just smacks of hypocrisy. It is far too easy for power to be abused. That is where the founders were so very wise in keeping government of limited power. That was destroyed from the Civil war on.

It is a truism that almost any sect, cult, or religion will legislate its creed into law if it acquires the political power to do so, and will follow it by suppressing opposition, subverting all education to seize early the minds of the young, and by killing, locking up, or driving underground all heretics.- RAH

Still, we need government. Why? Because true anarchy can’t exist, because someone with a yearning for power will always take it, by force if necessary. That’s why police morally exist- to protect the rights of those who are accused of crimes to receive a fair trial. The problem is that people don’t monitor their government to ensure that the powers aren’t being abused. Too much effort? No, it’s that people are good at wanting to use government power to force others to follow their own beliefs.

There must be a yearning deep in the human heart to stop other people from doing as they please.- RAH

Importance of Education and Critical Thinking:

Education and critical thinking are tools for individuals to resist tyranny and make informed decisions. However, education institutions can twist education to be a tool for ignorance, tyranny, and actually increase ignorance. That’s what we are seeing now. See my post tomorrow about Harvard.

I just do my absolute best to be worthy of being treated the way that I treat others. How would I feel if someone treated me or my loved ones the way that I am treating you? That doesn’t mean that I will be a doormat, and it doesn’t make me a Saint- after all, I sometimes fall short of my goal. I am far from perfect, even in meeting my own standards. We are all a work in progress.

I have committed transgressions against others, because I am not perfect. Some of the things that I did and said in my youth truly shame me when I think about them. I hope that those I hurt or offended through my faults have forgiven me. I am not that person any longer.

Does that make me Christian adjacent? I don’t know, but that’s my code. Parts of it, anyhow. It is what enables me to look myself in the eye in that mirror in the morning. I think that RAH and myself would have gotten along quite well.

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23 Comments

John · April 14, 2025 at 9:02 pm

DM

Please recommend your favorite Heinlein or other SciFi novels appropriate for a young teenage boy.

I read some Heinlein as a wayward youth and enjoyed it. Moon is a Harsh Mistress and of course Starship Troopers. Others were weird, like the one about spirit cooking; I forget the title.

A moral code is important to a life well lived. Without a foundation you are left aimlessly wandering, making it up as you go. Little good comes of amoral indiscipline.

Joe Blow · April 15, 2025 at 3:12 am

I also became swayed away from any form of organized religion when I was younger. Organized Religion as a whole was way to scammy for me. Money grubbing liars and thieves who could stand to learn from their sermon more than they could give from it. Hell, if I wasn’t such an asshole we’d probably get along!
That being said, this latest round of life (~10-15 years), has done more to convince me of the presence of God than anything else in the intervening 50-some years. And it comes about backwards!
It’s the child-sex specifically, but all the smoke surrounding adrenachrome, cannibalism, rituals, and the sex-parties doesn’t help the cause. You can literally smell the sulphur. Its all so satanic. The idea that educated medical professionals choose to enter into the trade and willingly carry out late-term abortions is another nail in the coffin for me. Someone studied at medical school, and are OK doing that?!?!
I can’t wrap my head around an evil like that. I can’t grok it (to steal another gem from RAH!). The only way I can possibly understand such vile disgusting evil, is if I frame it in my understanding of The Devil and demons, and what they are and do (and frankly, The Exorcist movie is my biggest source of information – though that Shawn Ryan interview w/ the preacher from Nashville was pretty good, too).
So, the only way I can rationalized behaviors in our world that I believe are happening, is by accepting and acknowledging that The Devil and demons are real, and operating and perpetrating evil acts in our world today. I’m not the first person on this planet to suggest they are working hard and being successful lately…. Who’s that Nunzio guy they defrocked? AND that’s another sign to me – This Anti-Pope Bergoglio? Holy fuck! That’s the top-dog in the Christian Church? REALY?!??!!
Ergo, if The Devil is real, if demons are real, the other side of that coin has to be real and true as well.
I also enjoyed the Chris Langan interview where he explains his take on God and religion. Worth your time to dig it up and find it. It’s the first explanation of that topic that’s made any sense to me (and I’m still not sure I buy it). Better than anything any preacher ever said to me.

JB · April 15, 2025 at 3:54 am

Libertarian. The word you are looking for to describe your beliefs is Libertarian.

    Divemedic · April 15, 2025 at 5:35 am

    No. I have many problems with that mobile as well.

    Birdog357 · April 15, 2025 at 6:30 am

    DM isn’t a libertarian because he is actually sane…

Old Maine Farmer · April 15, 2025 at 4:01 am

” I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”

Morally responsible to whom? To God I would answer. I suspect that if you actually met the one true God, you would serve Him. Catholic and Protestant educations/trainings do not at all lead you to meet Him, as most of those folk have never met Him either; they are just religious. I was raised “Protestant”, went to Catholic school, and never met Him there. Went to Episcopal church for 3 years and they made me the youth leader, never met Him there either. Then, years later, while working in the desert in a SCIF building, my boss, a Christian, told me to go to God and ask Him to reveal Himself to me. I did, and I meant it. Alone in base housing, He came to me in a dream. I did not see Him as I was on my face. The rest is personal, but I became a very different person, and I never looked back. He did the same with another man at a different time, and God also came to Him and spoke one word to him, “forgiven.” It changed that man’s life.

I will make a strange suggestion; get alone somewhere, and ask God to reveal Himself to you. If you really want to meet Him, He will come. Just make sure you really want to meet Him because He will so change you that it will change your life in many ways. Then read your bible (likely collecting dust somewhere) and also ask God to make you understand it. Start in Romans, and maybe Hebrews. Blessings.

    Divemedic · April 15, 2025 at 5:38 am

    I choose to be moral because it is right, not because I fear being punished by an invisible supernatural father figure who lives in the sky.

      old geezer · April 15, 2025 at 11:57 am

      interesting about the timing of your … almost a confession. fwiw, i have little faith in organized religion as well, same reason as you.

      did the Baker Act patient give you reason to consider your lack of personal faith ? as i mentioned before, read “ There Is A River “ about Edgar Cayce. there have been testimonial “ evidence “ throughout history that you have a soul. Mr. Cayce’s is quite recent and very well documented.

        Divemedic · April 15, 2025 at 12:05 pm

        That Baker Act certainly played a role in that. I am a very introspective person. I am constantly evaluating my beliefs and conclusions and comparing them against my experiences. I don’t believe in a deity, but I am not so egotistical as to believe that I cannot be wrong.
        So when I see something that is difficult to explain under my current belief system, I examine the conclusions I made in arriving at that belief system to see if it needs to be adjusted.
        Let’s just say that I am not as convinced in the lack of a deity as I was three days ago. I will continue to reflect upon that.

      Old Maine Farmer · April 15, 2025 at 5:29 pm

      If you met Him, you would be moral out of love for Him, not fear. And who makes being moral right? Right by whose standards? You already have a natural love for Him as He really is, otherwise you would not strive to be moral.

oldvet50 · April 15, 2025 at 6:11 am

I have always feared people that do not believe in an afterlife – there is no downside for them to do evil. They believe they will not have to answer to God for their deeds so they are free to do whatever they wish; all they have to do is make sure the law on earth does not catch them. You say you are not perfect and you hope that those you have hurt can forgive you. That shows that you do believe in forgiveness but I am not sure what that means in this context. What could it matter? It seems that it is sufficient just to forgive yourself. Belief in God should not be based on the fear of hell but from the very fact of our own existence. How can there NOT be God?

    JNorth · April 15, 2025 at 11:46 am

    @oldvet50

    I’ve heard people make a similar comment and all I hear is someone admitting if they thought they could get away with it there is no crime they wouldn’t commit and no depths of depravity they would not sink to. You only do “good” because you think you will be rewarded for it. Of course that idea is written right into the Old Testament, the whole Book of Job is no different then letting someone torture your dog to prove it will still wag it’s tail when you come back and pretend to care. There are things that are evil no matter how many people says they are good and claiming that the only reason someone would not do them is to avoid punishment says far more about you than them.

    Divemedic · April 15, 2025 at 12:02 pm

    Again, I do not have morals that have been forced upon me by a fear of being disciplined by an invisible man who lives in the sky and is acting as a supernatural father figure. I am a moral person because I have empathy- I can put myself in the place of those with whom I interact, and I want to treat others as I myself would want to be treated. That is my definition of good. It’s also a loose definition of an internal locus of control.

    The fact that I also can extend that same set of morals to include a protection of others who cannot do so for themselves is what I think makes me worthy of calling myself a man. It also results in me sometimes tilting at windmills.

      Old Maine Farmer · April 15, 2025 at 5:35 pm

      Empathy is from God. Protecting others who cannot do so for themselves is also from God. These are godly attributes. Your lips deny Him but your deeds affirm Him. Your lips deny Him because you got a wrong site picture of him from fake religious people. Your deeds affirm Him because you are made in His image and He is seeking you.

      An invisible man who lives in the sky…….sounds like a B-2 pilot, not God. Heh.

Milton · April 15, 2025 at 7:30 am

DM,
Pretty sure Old Maine Farmer nailed it. Ask.
As a man that spent most of my time as a pleasure seeking heathen/hedonist, never had any real religious schooling, educated as an engineer, and then making an oath I didn’t understand all that well when I married a Catholic girl, I abided in the raising of our children in the Catholic faith.
It wasn’t for me, then.

But the LOGIC of what my lovely wife practiced became apparent to me. The beauty of what that lifestyle embraced. All those “hard” things that are requirements of the church, they provide a beauty to life. (How many problems would be averted if no one had sex before marriage?) Being Christian adjacent (whatever in the hell that is) might get you along well in this world.

But it just won’t serve anyone well in the world to come. Memento Mori.

Meep · April 15, 2025 at 8:04 am

Being Christian adjacent is a really good way of explaining your morals. I have come to believe Christianity is the best moral code we have ever found but how it is taught and enforced has corrupted much of it. The fear based “obey or burn in hell” rhetoric can get offensive to those truly seeking the good but helps the morally questionable stay on the straight and narrow. I guess it would be better to accept that we need multiple levels of faith for multiple types. A simple one for kids and unthinking adults, a more sophisticated one for think people and so on. We do need to keep the Christian flame alight because without it we will devolve into a secular hell where selfish hedonism becomes the norm as it has in so much of our culture.

SoCoRuss · April 15, 2025 at 11:12 am

Thanks for sharing this,know that that there are others who believe the same way. Its always good to know we aren’t alone.

The more I listen to you the more I wonder if we are related, I have lots of family spread between SC,GA and especially in FLA. My grandfather was a SC SLED cop and had a real weakness for FLA southern bells. Guess that’s a reason him and grandma got a divorce:) As I go thru life I seem to find more unknown relatives or they find me, had a unknown cousin that found me that was basically my twin. His wife saw me on a local TV news interview online. Maybe social media ain’t all that bad in a limited sort of ways or am I just too easy to find?

    Divemedic · April 15, 2025 at 11:55 am

    LOL. Like most people who live in Florida, I wasn’t born here. I am a coonass.

TJ · April 15, 2025 at 11:20 am

“Christian adjacent” is a good summary. My advice would be to keep at it. Keep thinking and mulling over the ethical things that hit you. Don’t ignore your won mortality. He will find a way. And, by the way, you are not wrong about how a ‘Christian’ upbringing can make it very hard to accept God. How can all those jerks be such assholes and yet Christ is risen and has established His church – admittedly run by weak, sinful men? The answer is worth your life. God give you grace.

Mark · April 15, 2025 at 2:01 pm

I was born and raised Catholic. I believe God exists and that Jesus was born about 2000 years ago, was crucified, died, was buried, and rose again. Why??? First, I can’t believe, when examining a the complexity of a flower, watching a Monarch caterpillar pupate–dissolve its body–and emerge as a butterfly, or any number of other natural events that there isn’t a designer/creator. Evolution explains well changes to existing live features; it doesn’t explain development of the complex chemical factories that allow life to live. Second, Christ’s life, death and resurrection are likely the best documented events in antiquity. Archeology far more often than not supports the Bible as being historically accurate, rather than refuting what is written. All that said, God condemns no one. We condemn ourselves by pridefully refusing to accept His existence and turning our back to His love. Our wrongful use of free will condemns us. That said, at any time, likely even at death, we can choose hope and heaven, or to condemn ourselves.

    Divemedic · April 15, 2025 at 2:18 pm

    I won’t attack your religion, because that is not in my nature. So I will just say that the evidence doesn’t support your opinion and leave it there.
    Faith is the belief in something despite all evidence to the contrary. I support your right to believe as you wish.

Sum Dum Gai · April 15, 2025 at 3:30 pm

Being as old as dirt, I read SF as a yooth and ol’ L.Ron Hubbard wrote a short novel a. His about how to get rich without a lot of hard work and problems.
His conclusion was to basically start and be the head of a religion.

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