Recovery

This post is here to help me clear my head and organize my thoughts. It is not likely to be interesting to most of my regular readers, so feel free to ignore it and move on.

One of the things that I have been doing is talking to the females that are a part of my past, and trying to figure out why relationships always seem to end for me the way that they do. I always say that you should look for the common denominator when you have problems, and the common denominator seems to be me.

One of the women that I have spoken with is a woman who broke up with me fifteen years ago, and had many of the same complaints as the latest one. She is married and lives in Arizona now, and we have slowly begun speaking over the past few years, via email and social media.

Fifteen years is a long time, and long enough that there is no longer any raw emotion or hard feelings that will get in the way of honest discussion. I have been hoping to get some answers that way.

The largest complaint that she had at the time was that I made her feel stupid. She now tells me that our intelligent conversations are what she misses the most about our time together. I remember when we were together, we used to lie in bed and talk for hours, until one of us fell asleep. We talked about everything and we talked about nothing, sometimes until the sun came up. I agree with her, I miss that. She said that she doesn’t get intelligent conversation from her current construction worker husband (he calls her a nerd), and that they are always short on money, but she is happy with him.

She told me now, that looking back on it, she thought t the time that I was trying to be jealous and controlling, and was smothering her. She said that she now sees that I was just trying to be a large part of her life, and wishes that she would have talked with me about it, rather than running away.

That got me to thinking:How can I avoid this in the future. Is it that I am not communicating effectively? I tend to not discuss my feelings very much, and maybe that is the problem. I will have to ponder on this for awhile…

This is really getting on my nerves

After hearing from my ex-girlfriend last weekend that she didn’t want any of her things back, I decided that enough was enough. I hadn’t talked to her since last Sunday, and figured that my stuff was just gone. Last night, she emailed me and said that she had changed her mind yet again, wants her stuff back, and will deliver my things to me as well.

This woman is crazy, and I don’t know what kind of games she is playing. I just want her out of my life, and I want her to leave me alone. I can’t get over this and move on with her constantly contacting me.

How can I miss you, if you won’t go away?

Idiots

So, in the wake of this week’s shooting, the Florida press is starting to make noise about why people are being permitted to carry guns at a movie theater. They are hinting that the law in Florida should bar people who have a CCW permit from carrying in public.

What the press, and the morons that they interviewed, fail to realize is that this particular shooting was perpetrated by a retired police officer. Under Federal law, a person who served as a police officer for ten years or more has nationwide authorization to carry a concealed weapon anywhere he wishes for the rest of his life, with the exception of government buildings. Sure, under the law the property owner can ask an armed cop to leave, but that just doesn’t happen, for all practical purposes.

Ryan is an ignorant tool bag

So a guy named Ryan from Garden Grove California, with an IP address of 64.203.36.# came here and decided to post the following comment to this post:

Speaking of stupid I came across your “it’s a felony to use someone’s
wi-fi” and had a good laugh, consulted with several of my friends (who
are attorneys), and they had a good laugh as well.

#1: You are an
ambulance driver, not an attorney. Please don’t pretend you know the
law until you’ve actually studied it or consulted with an actual
attorney.

#2: It is not a felony to use someone else’s wi-fi
unless you actually hack into their network and spy on their network
traffic or steal information, which would fall under a completely
different category.

#3: Your analogy of using wi-fi being
comparable to breaking into someone’s home is absolutely laughable
because: wi-fi is ubiquitous, it is everywhere, your neighbor’s wi-fi is
in your home, and your wi-fi is in your neighbor’s home, so for you to
compare it to breaking into their home, well… ironically you
overlooked the fact that their wi-fi is already in your home, and yours
is in their home.

#4: You should just make a blog of your ignorant comments, that would probably be more amusing, and more people would read it.

First, you are an ignorant ass, and your attorney friends are incompetent assholes that I wouldn’t hire to get me out of a $20 parking ticket. See, the police and the prosecutors disagree with you, and proved it when Benjamin Smith became the first man arrested in Florida for using someone’s open WiFi without permission.

You didn’t even comment on the post that you were referring to, which is found here. Nowhere in that post did I compare using WiFi without permission to be analogous to breaking into a home. However, when you use someone’s WiFi without permission, you are stealing their bandwidth. Yes, the radio waves are passing through your home, but using that logic, so are your cell phone calls, the satellite signal for HBO, and the nuclear launch codes that the Navy uses. That doesn’t make them mine to take.

Law change will cost you

As of today, the Mortgage Forgiveness Debt Relief Act expires, as it was not renewed by Congress. This is a HUGE problem for underwater homeowners. Let me explain:

Underwater homeowners often try to negotiate with their bank so that
they can sell their homes for less than they owe in a short sale or have
their mortgage balance reduced. But the difference between what the
homeowner owes and the lower sales price approved by the bank is
considered income for the homeowner and subject to tax by the Internal Revenue Service.

For example, someone with a $100,000 mortgage who is allowed to sell
their house for $80,000 is supposed to pay taxes on the remaining
$20,000.

But the Mortgage Forgiveness Debt Relief Act saved such homeowners from the tax burden. Last year, Congress rushed to extend the law during negotiations about the fiscal cliff but only through the end of 2013.

They did not do so this year. This means that the IRS will consider a short sale to be INCOME, even though the homeowner took a loss in selling his home for less than what he paid for it.

So let’s say that you borrowed $240,000 for your home in 2007. The bank allows you to short sell it in 2014, and you get $100,000. That $140,000 difference will count as income, and if you are married and each earn around $45,000 a year, you are now considered subject to the taxes that the evil rich must pay. Your tax bill will be about $45,000 higher than it otherwise would.

Hope this doesn’t keep you up at night.

One third of Americans are stupid

A recent survey shows the stupidity of Americans:
 

But 32 percent [of Americans polled] reject the idea of evolution,
saying that “animals and other living things have existed in their
present form since the beginning of time,”

 A statement that is easily demonstrably false makes Republicans look like idiots. We have antibiotic resistant bacteria, that have evolved in the past 100 years because of man’s antibiotic use. It can be demonstrated that species have evolved new traits in just the past couple of centuries. People themselves have evolved. Humans today are taller and heavier than they were just a couple of centuries ago. 


This is where the meme about the right being stupid and uneducated come from.


For the record, I disagree with this group:

A quarter of those surveyed told Pew that “a supreme being guided the evolution of living things.”

But at least they are trying to integrate their beliefs with observable fact. I can respect that, even if I disagree with it.

A public apology

I owe some people an apology, and an explanation. Generally, I owe an apology to Christians in general, and to two in particular: CCBPC, and SailorCurt. Earlier this week, I made a couple of posts that were very disrespectful of others, and that is not normally my style. Please accept my apologies, and an explanation.

For the past year, I have been seeing someone. We were closely involved, and I was truly in love with this woman. The only real bone of contention between us was that I was not allowed to meet her family. You see, I was a bit older than she was, and according to her, this would not meet the approval of her deeply religious father. This girl was also a very religious woman, or at least claimed to be.

Things were going well for us, and we were busy making plans for the future. I thought that I had found someone that I was willing to spend my life with. Then, this Christian woman, this religious woman, called me out of the blue, and dumped me, just days before Christmas. Over the phone. No explanation given. She blocked my calls, my emails, and blocked me on Facebook. I was devastated. That was when the truth began to come out. She had been sleeping around. Not just with one man, but with three.

I blamed everyone except the one who did it. I blamed Christians, her Father, everyone. After a time, I called her Father so that I could give him all of her possessions that she had left here. This is what I found out:
– Her father is religious, but he is a decent, nice man
– She lied to me, he did not even know that I existed. He had no beef with me.
– She lied to me when she told me that her older brother had died in Afghanistan in 2010, and her older sister had committed suicide three months later. She is the oldest of two children.
– She lied to her parents about many things to hide the relationships she was having. Her Christian father would not have approved of her screwing her boss and several other men, all at the same time.

For me, the conversation was therapeutic. For her Father, it was devastating. His vision of a good, honest, Christian daughter was shattered. He told me that he has no idea how he will break the news to his wife.

So to all of you, I am sorry that my anger was misdirected at all of you, instead of at the person who has turned my life upside down. I hope that you can understand, and most of all, forgive my indiscretion. Now I have to try and put my life back together. Posting will be sparse for awhile.

Merry Christmas

The holiday of Christmas has mixed origins. The holiday of the Sun god, held on the day that the sun begins returning and the days begin to lengthen (the winter solstice) in the northern hemisphere, and the Roman holiday of Saturnalia. The Christmas tree has its roots in the tradition of Saturnalia.

Roman pagans first introduced the holiday of Saturnalia, a week long period of lawlessness celebrated between December 17-25.  During this period, Roman courts were closed, and Roman law dictated that no one could be punished for damaging property or injuring people during the weeklong celebration.  The festival began when Roman authorities chose “an enemy of the Roman people” to represent the “Lord of Misrule.”  Each Roman community selected a victim whom they forced to indulge in food and other physical pleasures throughout the week.  At the festival’s conclusion, December 25th, Roman authorities believed they were destroying the forces of darkness by brutally murdering this innocent man or woman.

In the 4th century CE, Christianity imported the Saturnalia festival hoping to take the pagan masses in with it.  Christian leaders succeeded in converting to Christianity large numbers of pagans by promising them that they could continue to celebrate the Saturnalia as Christians.  The problem was that there was nothing intrinsically
Christian about Saturnalia. To remedy this, these Christian leaders named Saturnalia’s concluding day, December 25th, to be Jesus’ birthday. The earliest Christmas holidays were celebrated by drinking, sexual indulgence, singing naked in the streets (a precursor of modern caroling), etc

Some of the most depraved customs of the Saturnalia carnival were intentionally revived by the Catholic Church in 1466 when Pope Paul II, for the amusement of his Roman citizens, forced Jews to race naked through the streets of the city. An eyewitness account reports, “Before they were to run, the Jews were richly fed, so as to make the race more difficult for them and at the same time more amusing for spectators. They ran… amid Rome’s taunting shrieks and peals of laughter, while the Holy Father (the Pope) stood upon a richly ornamented balcony and laughed heartily.

The New Testament gives no date or year for Jesus’ birth.  The earliest gospel – St. Mark’s, written about 65 CE – begins with the baptism of an adult Jesus.  This suggests that the earliest Christians lacked interest in, or knowledge of, Jesus’ birthdate.

The year of Jesus birth was determined by Dionysius Exiguus, a Scythian monk, “abbot of a Roman monastery.  His calculation went as
follows:

a.      In the Roman, pre-Christian era, years were counted from ab urbe condita (“the founding of the City” [Rome]).  Thus 1 AUC
signifies the year Rome was founded, 5 AUC signifies the 5th year of
Rome’s reign, etc.
 b.     Dionysius received a tradition that the Roman emperor Augustus reigned 43 years, and was followed by the emperor Tiberius.
c.      Luke 3:1,23 indicates that when Jesus turned 30 years old, it was the 15th year of Tiberius reign.
d.     
If Jesus was 30 years old in Tiberius’ reign, then he lived 15 years under Augustus (placing Jesus birth in Augustus’ 28th year of reign).
e.      Augustus took power in 727 AUC.  Therefore, Dionysius put Jesus birth in 754 AUC.
f.       However, Luke 1:5 places Jesus’ birth in the days of Herod, and Herod died in 750 AUC – four years before the year in which
Dionysius places Jesus birth.

So there you have it, the history of Christmas.

Teh gays are sinners

Because they do so many things against the Bible, unlike the Christians, who are so good that they get to sit in judgement of the rest of us, like these guys: (all stories from just the past month)

Pastor Isaac Hunter, who committed suicide.
Pastor Zachary Tims, who died of a drug overdose.
Pastor Michael Bryant, who molested a 16 year old girl in Memphis.
Pastor Otis Jetter, who was convicted of molesting a 12 year old boy in Indianapolis.
Pastor Wiley Leverett, who just turned himself in for molesting little girls, some as young as 8 years old.

Then there is also the Catholic Church, who officially covers up for Priests who sex up little boys.

Yet, you force us to live by the rules of your fucked up religion, even though you don’t live up to them yourself.
No alcohol sales on Sunday mornings, in an attempt to keep people of your congregation from showing up to church drunk.
No weddings, unless they are by people that your church approves of.
The church trying to force schools to teach people the superstitious belief that some invisible guy created the world by pulling it out of his magic hat of tricks.

You complain that people are forcing their religion on you, but you have been doing that in this country for over 200 years, and people have grown tired of it.