A guy got arrested for attempted murder because he found the man in bed with his wife. The guy you gave the beating to? He isn’t your problem. There are millions of dudes out there that will do your wife. It is your wife that made the promise to you, to always have your back. Your problem is that your wife has no respect or love for you, or she wouldn’t be lying in bed with other men. Whether sex actually took place or not, no one who respects and loves the person that they are married to would engage in an act of disrespect like this.
the victim told deputies that he and a coworker had gone out for drinks prior to coming back to the apartment, which was rented as an Airbnb.
She is your problem. How do you deal with it? You don’t. Even if it were legal to beat her, what would it solve? Not a thing. You can’t make someone love or respect you. Once your spouse is alone in an AirBnb, lying in bed with someone else, your marriage is over and all that is left is the paperwork. The only thing that you can do is walk away and salvage what you can.
Once you know, don’t say a word. Act like everything is normal while you empty the bank accounts. Spend the money so that it is unrecoverable (at least on paper). Wait a month or two, then divorce the bitch. If you don’t already have kids, make damned sure that you don’t get her pregnant on the way out.
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It's just Boris · July 4, 2023 at 11:15 am
And document, document. In a case like this it’s pretty clearly not a “no-fault, no-foul” situation.
Some guy · July 4, 2023 at 11:54 am
I did exactly that.
Suspected she was cheating, put up a portable camera that I could watch on my phone, caught her on video that same day.
She went to work later, Had my stuff packed up, money withdrawn, and paperwork filed before she even got home.
I could care less about the guy.
Private Joker · July 4, 2023 at 1:30 pm
Unknown Hinson has the I ain’t afraid your husband song. (honk)
Once had a hot blond philly coworker that didn’t reveal that she was accounted for until almost coitus time, no ring on finger as it was taken off.
GTFO there and never looked back blue balls and all.
Karen’s gynocracy is why we can’t have nice things.
Big Ruckus D · July 4, 2023 at 1:45 pm
Solid advice all around. As much as one would tend to (understandably) have a knee jerk reaction and want to administer ass beatings to both parties, catching an assault/domestic violence or even an attempted murder charge is a shit way to come out of an already bad situation. As DM has laid out, don’t have a knee jerk (over) reaction, play it absolutely cool and detached – difficult though that may be – and plan your exit strategically to be as uneventful as possible.
And if one finds themselves in the shit hip-deep with a cluster B “bunny boiler” type, don’t make a sudden move to break it off, as that will cause her to go category 5 apeshit in seeking vengeance. Withdraw affection/sex and attention slowly, and ramp up that trend at a pace that will have her lose interest, and find another schmuck who thinks she looks (and fucks) hot enough to take her off.your hands, then she can fade out of your life instead of going ballistic at the prospect of being outright dumped. Your place, car, wallet and quite possibly your life will be all the better for not inflaming her temper and then dealing with the consequences of having done so.
EN2 SS · July 4, 2023 at 2:00 pm
Years ago it was legal in Texas to kill the guy. The problem was, you also had to kill the cheating bitch, or you were charged with murder. Before anyone gets upset, the same rule applied to a cheating dude, she had to take them both out. Then Texas got enlightened, now it’s as you say, walk away with everything then kick her ass out.
Ahhh, the Good Old Days. LOL
Aesop · July 4, 2023 at 2:10 pm
O Yes he is.
A marriage is a legal covenant, and anyone who trespasses upon it knowingly has a beating coming. Whether from a wronged husband or wife.
You can divorce a cheating spouse.
You can’t divorce an interloper in the union.
Kicking their ass is the least you could do.
If even SCOTUS can recognize the existance of “fighting words” – words so irrevocably offensive as to incite battery – how much moreso the flagrant offense of doinking someone else’s spouse??
Shooting the stranger DRT because “I thought he/she was raping my spouse” is also a good claim on justifiable homicide.
The other party to the marriage claiming afterwards it was consensual merely provides the grounds for a divorce, for cause, and no requisite division of assets with the violator.
The “No Fault” jackassery was the biggest disaster to befall the republic since the passage of the deliberately toxic, malign, and dastardly Progressive Amendments (16/17/18/19), and ought to be repealed nationwide on exactly those grounds.
At minimum, continuing to allow “no fault” divorces should also require the petitioner without cause to forfeit all claims on mutual assets. Minor children should be asked which party they wish to stay with, with concurrent recommendations from the state’s investigators, and take their chances on that basis, without any award of support.
When there’s no state-sanctioned lotto payday for running to the courthouse to file, most of the incentive to cut and run goes down the toilet too, and folks might actually not make lifelong commitments they’ve no intention of fulfilling, or learn to grow up and work out their childish problems, or live as they’re entitled by their actions.
Any of those three would be a vast improvement over the current broken system, designed from the get-go to screw kids, fathers, and husbands exclusively.
And now, women can’t figure out why no one will marry them.
Quite the poser there.
Filthie · July 4, 2023 at 5:32 pm
Infidelity IS easy… especially these days. Gawd, I nearly trashed my own marriage – twice. My liberal in-laws went insane, they were meddling in our family affairs, then my adult daughter went nuts… and my wife wouldn’t or couldn’t do anything about it. Oh gawd…all the other shit going on at that time in my life… I was coming apart.
We finally had it out when she found out I was preparing an exit… and I finally found a way to talk about it all. She actually sat back and listened to me. I was sure I was headed for divorce hell…but she heard me. We hadn’t talked like that since we were in high school… We finally told her family to FOAD, she stood by me when I told my daughter to either get smart or get bent… and we restarted our marriage with a clean slate. I got a grip on myself, and started letting other people take the heat for their own stupid decisions and started looking after myself. And it worked too. Modern times induce so much polarization and division on families so I walked away from it. I was going back to tradition and basics. I found faith, of all things. And I discovered that I loved my wife more than ever before.
I dunno if something like that is in the cards for everyone… but for some reason it worked for us. Sometimes neither of you are the problem, maybe? I think the kicker is communication… if you can’t talk, or you can’t listen…it’s over.
Noway2 · July 4, 2023 at 9:27 pm
I’ve only “been with” one girl and right no she’s sleeping in my bed down the hall. That arraignment started 36 years ago when we were high school. I’ve only been unfaithful to her once (before we were married) and even that didn’t go as far as involving coitus. Having learned my lesson I’m even more faithful to my wife than I would have been. There is no other higher bound of honor.
Mike Hendrix · July 4, 2023 at 11:47 pm
Years ago, the guy who ran the record label my band was signed to said something I’ve always remembered, about the different levels of authority wielded by A&R people (Artists and Reportoir, ie the guys who offer those fat label deals to bands): all of them have the power of “No”–that is, they can pass on signing an aspiring band to a contract. Only a very few of them have the power of “Yes,” and can offer a deal on their own authority.
I’ve always thought the same applied to men and women, with only women having the power of “Yes.” All they gotta do is walk into any bar they like, sidle up to the plank, look some poor desperate, lonely schlub in the eye, and say “YES.” She’ll get laid every time, regardless of what she might look like. Unlike us, they don’t even really have to try.
That being the case, I never could figure out whupping ass on the dude that’s banging your ol’ lady. HE didn’t break any obligations or covenants, he never promised you a gott-damned thing. SHE did. If you’re gonna be pissed off at anybody, it would have to be her.
I remember what I told my ex-wife the night I had caught her cheating on me; I confronted her when she finally got home after supposedly having been at the movies with some co-workers, something I knew wasn’t so because I’d driven by the theater earlier and her car wasn’t there. When I told her that was it, we were done and she needed to find another place to live, she said she hadn’t been with the guy at all that night, to which I said: “Doesn’t matter now whether you were with him tonight or not, Suze. You just looked me in the eye and told me a lie. The rest is just details.”
Big Ruckus D · July 5, 2023 at 1:51 pm
That pretty well says it. It may be natural and even justified to be pissed at the guy caught banging out your old lady, but he’s a third party to the contract known as marriage. She, meanwhile, is responsible for meeting (or failing to) her obligations under the contract, and allowing another man to do the dirty with her is a failure to uphold the contract on her part.
Women are the gatekeepers of sex. Ain’t no sex going on (outside of rape) unless she decides it’s on the menu. If so many women are actually incapable of living up to a contract by blithely embracing infidelity, then perhaps they need to be returned to their historical status as chattel, but that’s another discussion entirely.
Point being, even if the other guy is a real smooth operator, she has the power of “no”. She also has the ability not to knowingly place herself in locations and situations (bars on a Friday night) where she is likely to be the subject of untoward (but not necessarily unwanted, we are talking about women after all) attention from other men.
Finally, I would point out that we now have volumes of evidence on just how manipulative and mercenary women truly are when it comes to the criteria they employ for choosing a man. They are often enough deceptive and underhanded such that they will intentionally well hide their status as married (or otherwise attached) to get some side action (and soak the other guy for money and attention). They are good enough at this scam that many men placed in this position may never even know they are “the other guy”.
Am I going to kill a man, and almost certainly pickup a murder rap (this is clown world, where justice is known to be a myth, so spare me the hypothetical scenarios) because she suckered him and led him along in the belief she was single? I may be rightly pissed at the dude, but he does not share the same level of responsibility for the infidelity that she, as the enabler of it, holds.
oldvet50 · July 5, 2023 at 5:52 am
Although I agree with your advice wholeheartedly, it is much easier said than done. Emotions cancel logic 99% of the time.
Woody · July 5, 2023 at 1:13 pm
I recommend to anyone today to get a prenup, and maintain separate bank accounts. Written agreements on how joint bills will be paid, investments made and so on.
You also need to be sure you can kick someone’s ass, I know someone who tries and failed, he then missed a week of work.
If you are an hourly employee, you need to talk to your boss about not working overtime has that will factor into alimony.
Divemedic · July 6, 2023 at 7:30 am
Or you can be in Florida, which doesn’t do alimony.
Wyowanderer · July 5, 2023 at 4:12 pm
I advise the following. It served me well, twice – because I’m a slow learner.
1. Stack physical cash in a secure location. “Secure” in this case ought to need no explanation.
2. DISCREETLY. store your precious things. I know you love Grandma’s clock, but it’s out in the open, and obvious. Store the guns, valuables, etc. that you don’t want stolen by her OR her new paramour and others. Get a storage unit out of town, in your buddy’s name, that sort of thing.
3. Hire a good lawyer with cash. He/she won’t be cheap, but divorce is expensive because it’s WORTH it.
4. Leave the moment you file, even if you have to live in your car/motorhome/tent. It’s much less effective for her accuse you of beating her, thereby making her case in court look better, if you’re not there.
5. Never return. She may say ANYTHING to get you back in the home, especially into bed…to make another child…to strengthen her child support case. Don’t do it.
6. Remember that this misery will pass.
Jester · July 5, 2023 at 8:05 pm
Yeah, there’s two things with this. The first question is did he know she was married or not? Ill sub divide that further if he did know she was married, did she lie about that too? Been lots of guys out there getting wrapped up with a woman that claims to be on her way to a divorce or the divorce is in the works when none of that was true. I’ve dallied about close enough to women to know this is something pretty common to say or do to the new man. Now if he knew nothing about her being married or was sold up on a false story absolutely correct it’s not really his fault. Due to the fact she set it up with a hotel would make me guess he knew nothing. She may deserve the beating but at this point I agree with DM, you just lock her out of the accounts you can, shift your money to your own holdings and file the paperwork.
But if for some reason he did know she was married and it was in a residence you owned? Well he might deserve a couple chest smacks with the bat. Just enough to say when I realized what was happening and it was consentual I stopped! I honestly had no idea to expect a stranger in my house!
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