On Duty

My thoughts on the question from earlier.

In December of 2024, I was in the room when a violent patient attempted to attack a pregnant doctor because she wouldn’t give him the drugs he wanted. I say attempted, because I stepped between them. He tried to punch a pregnant woman. He punched me in the face. He got probation. The secret is, the guy is a criminal douchebag that keeps getting his ass in trouble for hitting women, children, and feeble old men. The first time he got tied up with someone that wasn’t putting up with it, he got his ass handed to him, then went to jail. The system doesn’t handle people like this very well. He has arrests for battery, domestic battery, stalking, and witness intimidation- nearly all of the victims are women and old men.

In the case of this afternoon’s video, the assailant grabbed a woman’s ass. As it turns out, it was the wrong woman’s ass. It was the wrong woman because there was a real man there. I don’t mean real man in some macho, chest thumping sense. No, a real man is one who understands a couple of things:

• Men are put here to defend and protect those who cannot do so for themselves, women and children especially.
• More specifically, men are here to protect THEIR women and children.
• If a man won’t protect others, he isn’t a man.

Women want that as well. A wife will put up with many things- she will help when money is tight. She will put up with your bullshit. All a wife REALLY wants and needs is to feel safe, and it is the husband’s duty to make that happen. If you can’t protect her and make her feel safe, then you have failed in your main and most important duty to her.
I actually showed that video to my wife, and she fully supports my opinion on this. Her statement was “Oh, we aren’t playing that game.” I told her to call the lawyer and come bail me out. The likelihood of a person with a clean record being charged with anything more than a misdemeanor is very low as evidenced by the dirtbag who punched me.

I don’t care. I will fight that fight in court. One thing I won’t EVER do is stand there and watch while somebody takes liberties with my wife. I will do whatever it takes to stop that attack on the two of us, use any necessary force- up to and including deadly force. If I am not willing to do so, then I might as well not have a wife or a carry permit.

One of the people who formed my core beliefs as an adult was Robert Heinlein.

• If it has to be done, a man—a real man—shoots his own dog himself; he doesn’t hire a proxy who may bungle it.
• Law-abiding people hardly dared go into a public park at night. To do so was to risk attack by wolf packs of children, armed with chains, knives, homemade guns, bludgeons… to be hurt at least, robbed most certainly, injured for life probably — or even killed. Murder, drug addiction, larceny, assault, and vandalism were commonplace. Nor were parks the only places — these things happened also on the streets in daylight, on school grounds, even inside school buildings. But parks were so notoriously unsafe that honest people stayed clear of them after dark.

Nowadays, many people think they are “more civilized” because they don’t believe in things like duty, responsibility, and honor. They think concepts like personal responsibility and sacrifice are outdated and quaint. They can’t even fathom things like spanking a child. We are civilized, don’t you know.

So now we are expected to put up with people grabbing our wives. We must do nothing but stare at the floor in shame and call the police. Who will do nothing but take a report and “take cover” behind their police car until the violence is done.

I am not now, nor have I ever been, the kind of person who leaves the defense of my loved ones to others. If you try to attack my wife (and make no mistake, grabbing her ass is a sexual attack) you are about to experience some serious repercussions.

Whatever it costs me to hire an attorney is what it costs.

One of the people on Twitter accused me of White Knight syndrome. At first I thought that he might be right. I had a girlfriend who once accused me of being a professional rescuer in every sense of the word, and she didn’t mean it in a nice way. No, a white knight is one who tries to save everyone. I don’t do that, but I will save my wife. Every time, no exceptions.

As a veteran, as a firefighter, and as a paramedic, I rushed into more dangerous situations than I care to think about. I was willing to die for those people, many of them I haven’t even met. I would do no less for my wife.

It’s my duty as a man, as a husband, and as a human being. I will accept the consequences of that, whatever they may be. One thing I won’t and can’t accept is to stand by while my wife is attacked.

I’m not taking shit. This isn’t bluster- I’ve run towards the sounds of gunshots, into burning buildings, and been into situations where most people won’t go. It’s part of my core beliefs- I won’t bow down to anyone, nor will I allow those I have sworn to protect to suffer or be attacked while I stand by and do nothing.